5 Awesome Tips For Great Relationships in Every Area of Your Life
I haven’t been on this earth for a long time and I have plenty more to learn. But from what I’ve been taught so far and from what I’ve implemented in my relationships with my family, friends, boyfriend, associates, and even strangers… it’s enough to have made a huge and positive difference!
I am a walking talking recycle bin. Everything typed out below are pieces of advice someone else has shared with me. I hope you can take away something good from them as I did, and pass it along to someone else. 🙂 Enjoy!
1. Sincerely compliment one another.
A compliment should be a genuine gift. Flattery doesn’t get you very far. My first semester of college I had a friendly, but tough professor who’s assignments always put me on edge. One day after class we happened to be walking back to our cars together and I rattled off so many compliments in a row, the professor actually interrupted me. “Your paper was good, Jenni. You are laying it on a little thick. Stop trying to compliment your way to a good grade.” After turning beet-red and apologizing, they laughed it off — but I was taught a valuable lesson that afternoon. Be genuine with one another. The human mind catches on, if not immediately, then eventually.
“A lying tongue hates its victims and a flattering mouth works ruin.” Proverbs 26:28
2. Ask questions and actually listen to the answers.
Too often, and usually in romantic relationships, you’ll see couples that actually ask each other, ‘Are you done yet?’ so that they can have a turn to talk. Then the other usually responds defensively because they are feeling unheard and unappreciated. Instead, ask questions like, ‘Is there more about that?’ in a curious manner and watch the conversation transform from an annoyed toleration to a deep meaningful discussion. As well as an interaction of more than one person.
“Know this my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger.” James 1:19
3. Be silly and laugh with each other, not at each other.
Laughter is physically relaxing and it creates a bond, making you feel closer to the person you are sharing the fun with. However, it’s all about the context. “Just because they’re laughing doesn’t mean that it’s funny,” is one of my favorite quotes. It embodies so much truth and awakens so many memories in where we all have had to nervously laugh along with the group even though we felt personally victimized or uncomfortable on the inside. So when you’re sharing a fit of laughter, make sure it isn’t at the expense of the other person(s). Some may say it’s too sensitive a standpoint. But in my personal opinion, it is only common sense to put yourself in another’s shoes when you are the one wagging your finger.
“A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn and a time to dance.” Ecclesiastes 3:4
4. Prioritize your health.
The may not seem to fit in with the previous three points. But being physically healthy is something that literally translates into every facet of our lives. There are, of course, things that happen to our bodies that are indeed only in God’s control. But getting fresh air, maintaining a well-balanced diet, getting an hour or two of exercise in some shape or form a week, is not asking a lot of yourself. A healthy body breeds confidence and confidence stems hand-in-hand with a healthy relationship with another person. You should not rely on another’s affirmations. Compliments have got to stay genuine, remember?
“Or do you not know your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.” 1 Corinthians 6:19-20
5. Dream big and dream out loud.
Share your craziest hopes and aspirations with each other! Imagine an ideal life and don’t be afraid to open up about the things you want most. Delve into these things and help each other find the motivation to make these dreams a reality. A supportive system can sometimes be one of the things that help you take the first plunge. Not required of course, but always a plus! 😉
“But as for you, be strong and not give up… for your work will be rewarded.” 2 Chronicles 15:7
Speak love. Speak hope. And speak life.