Compliments: What We Say & Why We Say It
While forging through everyday life, we can compliment one’s choice in shoes twenty times before lunch. Sometimes I find myself passing along a compliment just to fill an awkward silence. When this happens I have to pose the question, “Why did I say that? Did I compliment them because I really meant it? Or did I compliment them just to fill the air?”
This lead me to challenge myself. Instead of relying on my usual off-the-cuff remarks regarding clothes or hair, I began to search for impressive attributes in others that I couldn’t gather from a first glance. The compliments I began to give became truly genuine and I found myself engaging in real conversation to learn more. Exchanging a few words with a stranger or an acquaintance can unveil a lot about their nature.
There is something very refreshing about others commenting on the little things about our personality and presence that we may not even notice ourselves.
Here is a beautiful list of examples I found on this Tumblr blog
1) You’re empowering.
2) I like your voice.
3) You’re strong.
4) I think your ideas/beliefs matter.
5) I’m so happy you exist.
6) More people should be listening to what you have to say.
7) You’re a very warm hearted person.
8) It’s nice seeing such kindness.
9) You’re very down to earth.
10) You have a beautiful soul.
11) You inspire me to become a better person.
12) Our conversations bring me a lot of joy.
13) It’s good to see someone care so much.
14) You’re so understanding.
15) You matter a lot to me.
16) You’re important even if you don’t think so.
17) You’re intelligent.
18) Your passion is contagious.
19) Your confidence is refreshing.
20) You restore my faith in humanity.
21) You’re great at being creative.
22) You’re so talented at ____.
23) I don’t get tired of you the way I get tired of other people.
24) You have great taste in ___.
25) I’m happy I stayed alive long enough to meet you.
26) I wish more people were like you.
27) You’re so good at loving people
Really mean your compliments. What do you like most about the other person? What encourages you or inspires you about them? What opens up your eyes or puts a smile on your face?
What compliments put a smile on your face?