4 Ways To Become More Assertive
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You don’t deserve to be treated like a doormat. You are valuable. You have worth. Being assertive is different than being aggressive. Don’t be afraid to turn up the notch and be clear about your expectations. However, when one has been beaten down enough, it’s tough to know where to start on a road to standing up for oneself. Here are a few starter points.
Give a voice to your opinions.
Be honest with others and be honest with yourself. If someone or something is putting you down or making you uncomfortable, address it. If someone berates you in front of others (or alone) pull them aside. Politely and directly ask them to stop.
Learn how to say ‘no.’
You don’t have to say ‘yes’ every time anybody invites you somewhere or asks you for a favor. Of course, it’s very kind to help out a friend. But when it effects the things you have going on in your life, it’s time tor reevaluate where you invest the bulk of your time and effort. The people who truly value your time won’t punish you for taking the time to take care of yourself. You always have the option.
Follow through with what you say.
Actions speak louder than words. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Be firm in your convictions. Your opinions and thoughts are not worthless and you owe it to yourself to follow through with the things that you want to do with your life.
Know that you can’t please everyone.
Others may get frustrated or angry with you. There will always be an opposition to everything you do in life. Stand firm. Don’t worry about making everyone in your life pleased with you – you’re in charge of your own happiness. Along the way, you will find yourself linking in arms with other like-minded people on their own journey as well.