10 Reminders for 20-Somethings
Here are some pieces of advice that have been shared with me over the past few years that when applied, have made a difference in my life.
1. Even when you have a clear goal, there will always be twists and turns along the way.
Face it, usually things don’t go exactly according to plan. So make sure your shocks are in good shape because you’ll be going over a few bumps in the road!
2. Your opinions will change, along with your perspectives.
The things you believed when you were younger may change; don’t dwell upon it. Understand that along with perspective, changes are inevitable.
“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”
3. Communication takes real effort.
Although Facebook and other social media avenues have made communication relatively more frequent, quality time spent face-to-face (Skype included) take commitment. Unlike texts and emails, you are forced to schedule a time to communicate rather than periodically throughout the day. And as you create a life of your own, communication with friends and family will be left on your shoulders.
4. Some friendships are not worth suffering over.
No one likes to “break-up” with childhood friends. But we all change and sometimes realize that our circle of influence needs to change as well. If you’ve been put down by the people around you your whole life, it may be time to uplift yourself. Putting a little distance between yourself and old friends doesn’t always mean never speaking to them again; an arm’s length may be just the place.
5. Your decisions are your own & you must own up to them, whether the results are good or bad.
Take responsibility for the good and bad choices you make. Mom & dad aren’t going to take the fall for your decisions. The government won’t. Your friends won’t.
“Every accomplishment starts with a decision to try.”
6. Your health is important.
Probably more than you thought in years before. Now, I’m not a medical professional and everyone’s health is different. But find a doctor that you trust and learn more about your body – it may do a world of good to start early.
7. You are worthy of love.
Yes, you! Too many people found themselves in tough childhood situations, going through adolescence believing they were not worthy of being loved or cherished. Now here comes the cheese (a.k.a. the truth): Have faith. Have hope. There are those out there who will love and respect you.
“If you have a bad thought about yourself, tell it to go to hell. Because that is exactly where it came from.” – Brigham Young
8. Respect is earned by being human. Everything we do is what increases that respect or destroys it.
Being a jerk to strangers you don’t know anything about won’t level you up in life. Human beings deserve respect. Hate is so overrated.
9. You are your own person.
You are meant to make your own decisions. Though they may have good intentions… your family, your guidance councilors, or your coaches… they aren’t you. Listen to advice, but make sure that you make decisions based on what your gut, your heart, and your head are saying.
“Hardships often prepare ordinary people for an extraordinary destiny.” – C.S. Lewis
10. Fear exists, but you can defeat it.
We’ve all heard it before… F.E.A.R. stands for False Evidence Appearing Real. Well, the fact that false evidence appears real is very real. But even the greatest cowards are capable of great courage. It’s only a choice.
(“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.”) – Jeremiah 29:11