such a people pleaser.
I’ve done a lot of things to please other people. And I’m not referring to being generous and selfless; I’m referring to making decisions regarding my own life that really didn’t pertain to anyone else’s journey… only because I cared too much about what the other person thought of me.
Again, I’m not talking about buying a dress to impress someone or begrudgingly liking their Facebook business page. These were big life choices where my sole decision was made on the basis of someone else’s opinion. Because I wasn’t secure enough in my own discernment and accepted unwarranted advice as fact.
I quit acting. I went to college. I dropped out of college. I went back to college again. I quit a job. I paid lots of money for trips I didn’t want to go on nor should’ve. I started a project I didn’t have the time to finish. I made promises to people I knew I couldn’t keep. I questioned my passions. The list goes on and on.
It took awhile (admittedly, I still struggle with it) before I really digested my reality: the person who is going to have to live with the decisions I make the rest of my life is me. I’m going to pay my own bills. I’m going to make my own memories. I can’t let the opinions of other dictate my path. My responsibility is to make my own decisions.
So, why do we continue to tell people that they shouldn’t do something risky, simply because it’s a risk? Are you really sharing wisdom when you’re projecting your own shortcomings onto others? Even the most well-intentioned people can destroy someone’s dreams. Consider this when someone opens up their heart to you about what they want to do with their life.
Failure, disappointment, and frustration are all required parts of eventual accomplishment. The difference between those who reach their end goal and those who don’t is that they didn’t let that stop them from pushing forward.