Above, is a picture of one of the many montages I have placed strategically around my bedroom & bathroom. Whenever guests are over & use my bathroom, they often take a little longer than expected, claiming they were reading my list of ‘100 Dreams’ taped to the medicine cabinet or the different quotes of motivation I have penciled on the mirror with lipstick. Hey, it’s something that helps me. I’m in my bathroom first thing in the morning & it’s the last place I am before I get into my bed – so I have to stare at my list & quotes & pictures all of the time. Great reminders of what I am working for, and a picture keeps it in the forefront of my head.
Today was the kind of day that I had 100% booked with a million things to do… and then plans changed unexpectedly all across the board. Thank goodness for frequently educating myself the art of flexibility within my day-to-day schedule! Or I could’ve been a right piece of work & no one would’ve wanted to deal with a nasty bad attitude… oh, how I’ve progressed in the past few months! 🙂
Here is something my mom told me this afternoon as I relayed to her that I felt I was being ‘flaked-on’ and ‘not taken seriously’ and ‘working around the schedule of everyone but myself’ : “Well, you can’t live anyone else’s life but Jen-Jen’s.” Yes, Jen-Jen is one of the many nicknames my parents have for me. But these words hold a lot of truth.
It is true that when you have plans with another person, you need to work together to find a set time & date that works well for both parties. But if someone continually calls you last minute to cancel or regularly ‘forgets’ and doesn’t show up at all… it may be time to move on. This applies to friends, love interests, business clients, etc. For a long time, I’d often bow down to the time of others & let my day mold around everything anyone else needed to take care of – even if it meant multiple changes of plans & constant excuses. I felt like an awkward fish flopping on a deck when they didn’t show up or called to cancel! Here’s an example: