5 Awesome Tips For Great Relationships in Every Area of Your Life

I haven’t been on this earth for a long time and I have plenty more to learn. But from what I’ve been taught so far and from what I’ve implemented in my relationships with my family, friends, boyfriend, associates, and even strangers… it’s enough to have made a huge and positive difference!

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5 Ways $ Escapes Us

It’s so easy to throw money out of the window. Well, figuratively. It is a shame that money is a necessity in today’s world, but that is the reality. Plus, as they say, the only thing guaranteed in this life is death and taxes! Living paycheck-to-paycheck, from what I’ve observed, is a very stressful existence. And a very common one! Having no idea of what you have in the bank is a sure-fire way to lose it all.
Sometimes, I jokingly refer to myself as ‘Eleanor Scrooge’. But I don’t hoard what I’ve earned. I’ve just had to train my brain to budget. Whether I’m living paycheck-to-paycheck or making a 7-figure income, I need to know what is going on in my life financially.
Here’s why:
1. The little things add up and become big things.
 Have you ever looked at exactly how much money you’re spending on food per month? Per week? That’s groceries including all fast food, coffee fixes, and appetizers at happy hour. In a ‘feed-me-now’ society, the amount of money we spend on food in the United States is astronomical compared to many other countries in the world. I know that before I began paying attention to my own spending, I could easily spend $100+ a week on food outside of my kitchen. In the morning before work or school, I’d swing by Starbucks for a latte’ and a muffin. Then at lunch I’d grab a meal at Panera Bread. After the gym, I’d go to the smoothie bar get a drink. I could go out every night with my boyfriend or friends to a restaurant for dessert or a diner for milkshakes. What I thought were minimal purchases at each time became one of my biggest expenses at the end of every month.


2. Emergencies tend to be expensive.


Every financial advisor will encourage their client to develop an ’emergency fund’ or ’emergency account’. Hey, stuff happens! Typically, the stuff happens to be nasty, money-guzzling mishaps we cannot prevent once they have started. A great example is when I was dog sitting a neighbor’s dog a few months ago. I got home late and parked my car in their driveway to take the dog out. When I got in my car to leave, I accidentally backed up over a pipe in their yard and watched in horror as a geyser of water shot up into the air. I had knocked out the water to their entire house. At 1 o’clock in the morning. And I was soaking wet. Needless to say, I paid to get it fixed and we all lived happily ever after – but it was quite a chunk of change I wasn’t anticipating to spend! The point is, unexpected costs come up all the time. From a chipped tooth, to a botched at-home hair dye job, to a phone falling into the pool — accidents happen. Knowing that you’re somewhat prepared for one will definitely ease the stress during.
3. Impulsive shopping almost always morphs into regret. 
This is a dangerous ground for me. If I see a pair of shoes that I want, and I know that I have a greater amount in my bank account than what is on the price tag, it takes a whole lot of strength to tear myself away from them. Impulsive shopping is like a disease. I’ll talk myself into buying something I know I don’t need, ‘but it’s just so cute!’. And then I’ll get home, take it out of the bag, and instantly regret it. Buyer’s Remorse is just as evil. Shopping is still fun. But while I’m teaching myself to pay better attention to what I’m spending my money on, I tend to put a little more thought into what I’m looking at before I ring it up at the cash register.
4. We forget and overlook additional expenses. 
So, say you are already conscious of what money you spend. You calculated altogether how much it costs to get into an amusement park or see a show, the milage and price of gas it will cost to get there, and even added a couple bucks for a snack. How about parking fees? Toll roads? Sales tax? Many times I have hastily stuffed a couple dollars worth of quarters into a parking meter or groaned about the 15% tip at a restaurant. Give yourself some leniency with budgeting and add another couple bucks for these overlooked expenses.
5. We buy things to impress rather than invest. 
I truly wish I could stamp this on the foreheads of some people. Here’s a novel idea: if you can’t afford it and you don’t need it, don’t buy it. If you have no money in the bank but you do have a credit card, same thing applies – you still can’t afford it. The first thing I think of as an example may seem trivial, but was big in my pre-teen years. I was beginning to make money babysitting and I’d always go spend my wages on a popular fad at the time: faded and ripped-up jeans. Regardless of the fact it looked like someone had taken a cheese grater to my legs, the jeans would cost more than a normal pair and fall apart twice as fast. I was trying to impress my peer by my ‘sense of fashion’ rather than invest in a pair of jeans that would actually last and keep my legs warm. Which is sort of the purpose…
Well, I hope someone got some sort of enlightenment out of this. And at the very least, one of you chuckled at the thought up me running around like a wet hen in the middle of the night trying to turn a geyser of water off.
– Jenni xx


Slactivists‘ is a term coined by an incredible communicator and writer, Tim Elmore. It is a hybrid of ‘slackers’ and ‘activists’.

Slactivists are people who honestly desire to make a lasting change to the world and to improve it in someway. They have great intentions, but often lack the energy to keep the fire in their eyes alive. Lofty dreams are lost in a sea of doubt and impatience. When the work to improve the world proves difficult, they often drop the movement and find a new one.

An example of this is the thousands of Kony Action Kits that were sold in 2012 as a result of a viral video about the infamous Ugandan warlord, Joseph Kony. You can view the powerful video here. The video & kits were created by Invisible Children, an organization focused on bringing awareness to the activities of the Lord’s Resistance Army in Uganda and their child soldiers. As someone who was personally involved in the organization in high school and college, I purchased a kit myself. However, many of us who bought a kit did nothing with it. We just stuffed it in our closet and forgot about it.

I also recall the popular ‘I Love Boobies’ bracelets that were made to spread breast cancer awareness. Or how about The Butterfly Project which encourages those struggling with cutting and those who want to support them positively to instead draw a butterfly on their wrist. Or Day of Silence, a GLBTQ protest against oppression where the participants place duct tape across their mouths.

All of these causes are powerful and have a huge impact on others. But I feel like so many of us participate only for show: are we really looking to make a lasting difference? Or are we just trying to blend in?

Let’s not spread ourselves too thin. It takes passion to make a lasting difference, not just participation.

– Jenni xx

Bold Decisions

Too many times in the past I have taken advice from indecisive and frightened people. Taking council from someone who have no investment in my decisions emotionally, mentally, or physically is a destructive action. I am basically guaranteeing that whatever they tell me will be bad advice.

They may have good intentions (usually a misguided sense of ‘protecting me’) but often, they are hindering me. I need to make sure I take support and advice from someone who has already accomplished what I want to accomplish in my own life. Not from those who haven’t. The irony of it all is that those who haven’t accomplished what I want tend to be the loudest discouragers.

Don’t get me wrong, our families and friends love us. And we should always make time to spend with them and should love them dearly. But once we come head-to-head with major decisions in our lives, we need to be single-minded. I’m a huge believer in running my decisions by my mentors. But there are plenty of people in my life that are not the slightest-bit qualified for that role.

Have the courage to make bold decisions.

– Jenni xx


A Powerful ‘Why’

I read a lot of books. The one I am currently delved into is Doing The Impossible by Patrick Bet-David.  You can purchase it here. Often when I’m reading, I come across an excerpt that I need to share. This tugged at my heartstrings.

“Big Mike and Little Mike have been best friends and neighbors their entire lives. Big Mike plays football for his school, but he is very lazy. His coach searches in vain for a way to motivate him and tap into his potential, but Big Mike seems content to do the bare minimum and ride the bench. Then one day right after practice, Little Mike is hit by a car right in front of Big Mike and dies in his friend’s arms. The coach expects Big Mike will need to take some time off from football to mourn the loss of his best friend. But just the opposite happens. Monday morning comes and Big Mike is on the field early, putting 110% into practice. Friday night’s big game comes and Big Mike asks his coach to start him in the game. He plays like his life depends on it; he gets six sacks, four interceptions, and the winning touchdown. At the end of the game, Big Mike’s coach comes up to him and asks, “What happened to you? I have never seen you play like that.” Big Mike explains that it was the first game that Little Mike ever got to watch him play. You see, Little Mike was blind and Big Mike wanted to play a great game for his friend looking down on him from heaven. Little Mike was the WHY that lit the fire under Big Mike.”

WOW, what a powerful story.

The point of it all is that mankind is lazy until something catches their heart. The ‘how’ is useless without the ‘why’. How many people do you know or hear of that are absolutely miserable, but surrounded by money? Too many, I can imagine.

Discover your ‘why’ and you’ll always find a ‘how.’

– Jenni xx


My mom is always sending the cutest emails! This is one I received this morning that really touched me. Enjoy!


A man was sleeping one night in his cabin when suddenly his room filled with light, and God appeared. The Lord told the man he had work for him to do, and showed him a large rock in front of his cabin. The Lord explained that the man was to push against the rock with all his might.

So, this the man did, day after day. For many years he toiled from sun-up to sundown, his shoulders set squarely against the cold, massive surface of the unmoving rock, pushing with all his might! Each night the man returned to his cabin sore and worn out, feeling that his whole day had been spent in vain.

Since the man was showing discouragement, the Adversary (Satan) decided to enter the picture by placing thoughts into the man’s weary mind. (He will do it every time!) “You have been pushing against that rock for a long time and it hasn’t moved.” Thus, he gave the man the impression that the task was impossible and that he was a failure.

These thoughts discouraged and disheartened the man. Satan said, “Why kill yourself over this? Just put in your time, giving just the minimum effort, and that will be good enough.” That’s what the weary man planned to do, but decided to make it a matter of prayer and to take his troubled thoughts to the Lord.

“Lord,” he said, “I have labored long and hard in Your Service, putting all my strength to do that which you have asked. Yet, after all this time, I have not even budged that rock by half a millimeter. What is wrong? Why am I failing?”

The Lord responded compassionately, “My friend, when I asked you to serve Me and you accepted, I told you that your task was to push against the rock with all of your strength, which you have done. Never once did I mention to you that I expected you to move it. Your task was to push. And now you come to Me with your strength spent, thinking that you have failed. But, is that really so? Look at yourself. Your arms are strong and muscled, your back shiny and brown; your hands are callused from constant pressure, your legs have become massive and hard. Through opposition you have grown much, and your abilities now surpass that which you used to have. True, you haven’t moved the rock. But your calling was to be obedient and to push and to exercise your faith and trust in My wisdom. That you have done. Now I, my friend, will move the rock.”

At times, when we hear a word from God, we tend to use our own intellect to decipher what He wants, when actually what God wants is just simple obedience and faith in Him. By all means, exercise the faith that moves mountains, but know that it is still God who moves the mountains.

When everything to go wrong, just P.U.S.H.

When the job gets you down, just P.U.S.H.

When people don’t do as you think they should, just P.U.S.H.

When your money is “gone” and the bills are due, just P.U.S.H.

When people just don’t understand you, just P.U.S.H.

P = Pray
U = Until
S = Something
H = Happens

“Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.”

“Friends are quiet angels who lift us to our feet when our wings have
trouble remembering how to fly.”

May God Bless You.

Credit to:
Angela R. Lane, Business Technology
Memphis Health Careers Academy
MCS E-school


Mom’s are the best, aren’t they? 🙂

-Jenni xx

Organization Skills

I remember sitting in my 12th grade English class and learning how to construct a résumé. I was mentally memorizing the basics : hard-worker, fast-learner, and excellent organization skills. I think we can all agree that listing ‘good organization skills’ on our résumés under ‘Special Skills’ is almost second nature. So as a result, I always included it. However, it wasn’t until I landed the ‘big girl’ job I have now that I realized my so called ‘excellent organization skills’ were pretty much non-existent.

I’m not typically a messy person on the exterior though. My closet is color-coded and sorted by length, my desk’s drawers are labeled, and I even use different color highlighters for different kinds of information when studying. My biggest issue was organizing my brain.

It may sound a bit cheeseball when I say it like that. Maybe a better word is scatterbrained. I’d wake up in the morning and know that I had X amount of things that needed to get done that day. I’d sit at my desk to work and immediately think of everything that needed to be completed. Usually I would make a cumulative list. But I would be so overwhelmed with everything that needed to be done that I’d end my day with only about half of the items marked off my list. This was always discouraging because I knew that even with a busy schedule, I had plenty of time to finish it all. Why?

Well, partly this was because I was worrying too much about the amount. But that’s another blog for another day! My biggest issue was my sense of priority. After mindlessly jotting down a bunch of random things, I’d tend to skip around and get the ‘easiest’ and most enjoyable items done first. And then skipping over the most important ones. Then my dad taught me a system that he’s been using for years.





Write down these four titles on four different folders. If you receive a document that is important and not urgent, slip in its appropriate file. If there’s something you need to do that’s both urgent and important, make a note and place it in it’s file. When you begin your day or sit down at work, open the important & urgent file and knock everything off the list right away! You’ll find that this will also open up some more time for the not important & not urgent list… Which tends to be made up of our favorite and most distracting activities! (Netflix & video games, anyone?!)

See? Simple as pie! Give it a try if you’re finding yourself as scatterbrained as I once was. 🙂

– Jenni xx

Time Value


Today was the kind of day that I had 100% booked with a million things to do… and then plans changed unexpectedly all across the board. Thank goodness for frequently educating myself the art of flexibility within my day-to-day schedule! Or I could’ve been a right piece of work & no one would’ve wanted to deal with a nasty bad attitude… oh, how I’ve progressed in the past few months! 🙂

Here is something my mom told me this afternoon as I relayed to her that I felt I was being ‘flaked-on’ and ‘not taken seriously’ and ‘working around the schedule of everyone but myself’ : “Well, you can’t live anyone else’s life but Jen-Jen’s.” Yes, Jen-Jen is one of the many nicknames my parents have for me. But these words hold a lot of truth.

It is true that when you have plans with another person, you need to work together to find a set time & date that works well for both parties. But if someone continually calls you last minute to cancel or regularly ‘forgets’ and doesn’t show up at all… it may be time to move on. This applies to friends, love interests, business clients, etc. For a long time, I’d often bow down to the time of others & let my day mold around everything anyone else needed to take care of – even if it meant multiple changes of plans & constant excuses. I felt like an awkward fish flopping on a deck when they didn’t show up or called to cancel! Here’s an example:

 Me: “Hello?
Other Person: “Hey… Jenni…
Me: “Oh, Hi! What’s up? Where are you?”
Other Person:Yeah… about that. You see, I have this problem…”
Me: “Are you okay?
Other Person: “Yeah… you see I can’t find my sunglasses so I can’t drive anywhere. Sorry.”
Me: “Huh?”
Other Person: “I need my sunglasses to drive. How about I text you tomorrow and we’ll reschedule?”
Me: (cheery voice) “Oh, sure!!! I completely understand! I hope you find them! Talk to you tomorrow!”
That is an actual conversation I have had on the phone in the past. Don’t be a spineless jellyfish like I was, ha! Often times, a conversation like that leads to multiple. But let me clarify further: It is very smart to acknowledge & understand that there will be emergencies when people will have to cancel – I recently had an emergency come up & had to cancel a babysitting job. (Luckily, they were able to move their date night to the next night, so it worked out anyway!) I had to cancel on a coffee date with a good friend recently as well! It doesn’t feel good to ‘flake’ and we all do it sometimes.
However, do value your time. Make time for your friends, family, love interests, and business associates. But don’t let someone else’s schedule dictate your life. You are your own person and you have a life too.

Jenni xx

An ‘Elementary’ Concept

My little sister is a complete gem! Sometimes, as is anyone, she can make frustrating decisions & I chose to become exasperated… but I do love her so! She is a new 4th grader (I know, huge age gap!) and a blonde, blue-eyed beauty.
Today, I went with mom to go watch her receive her award for ranking Advanced on her test scores last year. Afterwards, we volunteered in her classroom for a salt dough project. It’s always nice to see her at school and in a different environment than home. She is so eloquent in her words and is truly helpful to her peers. She respects their opinions and offers up creativity I wish I had at her age.
It got me thinking about how we all act when we aren’t at home. Do we show grace to others around us? Do we smile and share happy stories? Do we offer our help to someone in need of it and truly expect nothing in return?
Small, consistent, and deliberate actions. That’s what makes all the difference.
My best,

Newsflash, newsflash!

It’s not the government’s fault. It’s not your parents’ fault. It’s not your genetics’ fault or your high school teacher’s fault. We alone determine our own actions. We need to take individual responsibility for the good and the bad in our life rather than milking a victim mentality or entitlement to something we haven’t earned. God places blessings and opportunities in our life, but it’s up to us to do anything about it.

Sometimes, you just have to be blunt about it.
I’m heading downtown tonight to beautiful Bonita (lol) ‘country’. Great friends & discussing business 0 doesn’t get any better than that!